Ponni
I’m Ponni. Between hustling for my startup, managing two middle schoolers with Olympic-level schedules, and organizing “quick” family plans that somehow require a baseline of ten people, I’ve learned that chaos + accountability = community.
As the eldest among all the cousins, I’m either the blueprint or the cautionary tale thanks to a lot of Big Firsts, including my favorite boundary-breaker: marrying my white husband.
I give advice (lovingly, often unsolicited), take it (eventually). I run quiet triage, translating between South Indian roots and American reality, guiding the next generation into finding their lane. It would be easy to shrink into our little nuclear bubble, but Tamil family life doesn’t really allow for “small.” That overbearing, in-your-face love? It’s the same safety net we all free-fall into when things get messy. Even when my advice lands sideways, the conversation cracks something open and we all grow, me included.